Help Yourself by Keeping a Record
Do you keep a record, a journal, a diary, or a notebook with random doodles? Anything that helps you record where you have been, what you have tried, and most importantly - the nature of your thoughts? If you have thought about it but are not convinced, let me help by confirming - It is crucial!!
Last week I mentioned to a friend that I can tell when my thoughts are getting cluttered because of the physical manifestation of clutter at home. In the old days of hard-core depression it was evidenced in the lack of my physical care - flossing was optional, hair - eh, and my sleep pattern was terrible. Now it is less obvious (not that it was obvious to be then)- but unmanaged thoughts and neglected emotions still leave clues. Having accountability is amazing - telling a safe friend of those tendencies may help, and recording them is a way of managing yourself in accountability. No one wants to remain depressed or in a mind-cluttered fog, so leave a trail of breadcrumbs (record) for yourself and enlist someone to help you fight this battle of thoughts.
Transparency: I'll be honest, I am not always consistent with this record - I am working in progress. There is so much positive when I do: I can more quickly align my thoughts with my heart, I can discern what doesn't match, and choose to move away from people or events that don't bring benefit to who I am or the outcome of my goals. It's effectiveness is most clear when all the world seems to be falling down - I can look through the pattern of my thoughts and note a negative trend.
So, what to do after you have begun and noticed trends? Glad you asked. ;-)
Thoughts precede emotions, so start testing the validity (or truth) of your thoughts and remember, not all your thoughts come from you. Are you cluttered? Enlist someone to help you navigate: a confidant, a friend, coach, pastor or a wise elder. Navigating our path alone seems less frightening then trusting another - definitely feels preferable, but the facts is that we are not objective. To be objective a person must be unbiased, able to face facts apart from emotion - that is something no one is about themselves. To make progress, and navigate to the heart of a matter, objectivity is mandatory.
1/31/2020 11:09:56 am
Again, I learned this without spending money so if there is a chance, I would really like to teach for free especially to those children who can't afford lessons. Unfortunately, teaching comes with a cost. I need a venue. I need a ride to get to the venue. More importantly, I need a roof above my head and I need to eat. I won't be able to focus on how my students' skills can improve if I constantly worry about where to get the money to pay the rent and other bills and how to respond every time my four year old son asks me why I am not able to buy him anything, why he's not enrolled yet and why I always don't have money.
4/26/2023 03:11:39 pm
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Christine Mauriello's core strengths include motivational speaking, teaching, relational skills’ training, coaching, and compassionate care to meet the recovery goals for those with PTSD, addiction, trauma, divorce, and other setbacks.