Wow - really? There is a solution to stop feeling emotional pain?! Yes - and it takes a countermeasure, folks.
Throughout childhood, adolescence and far too great a period of my young adulthood I was under the false impression that emotions were scary, and not my friend. But we are not put together haphazardly - everything in our mind and body has a purpose and serves to ensure our survival. Emotions are no different. They serve as a reminder when we are not balanced, and must take action to get that peace and balance restored.
I learned this the hard way, I was not always this way. I was once a post-traumatized reactionary who feared everything including myself. I feared God, humanity, spiders, emotions - everything... even myself. I didn't trust myself or anything for that matter. Well, there are many blogs to write on those elements but I am not interested in dwelling for this blog - I am focused on sharing the solution.
Isaac Newton was so inspired to investigate and then propose, and prove, what we now call Newton's Laws of Motion. I was inspired because the first law is the one that proves my theory that the use of countermeasures will stop emotional pain(and the physical pain caused by emotion). Here is Newton's first law:
An object either remains at rest or continues to move at a constant speed and direction (velocity), unless acted upon by a force.
Many people (including myself far too often) act as though life is random and full of confusion - but it's not - and we don't have to have that mind-frame when we can take a full pause, reflect upon agreed certainties, and then apply them to a situation at hand.
This won't appeal to everyone (that is a certainty) so if you are one of the few who think as I do let apply Newton's first law to an emotional charged situation. (and by the way - this is what I do as my livelihood - if you are interested in discussing it more, one-on-one hit the Contact tab.)
Let's say you have a spouse, you and they are not getting along and you are not quite sure where/when it began. Using this law, we can guarantee that unless there is a force acted upon the situation using a countermeasure the discomfort will grow and eventually cause disconnect and withdrawn - possibly divorce. That's fact. Let's switch it around though. Let's say that you collectively act on the situation at hand with a force (maybe counseling, a marriage retreat, prayer, and commitment) - then the track that your relationship is on will be altered.
Let's say you are a child and there is something you want at a store and your parent says no, but because of the force of desire to have your needs/wants met you fuss and fuss unrelenting. Now, I don't know about you but as a kid it took some kind of consequence for me to fall in line with the expected behavior that I was being trained up into. Behavior (fussing) + force (consequence) = changed behavior (relenting)
You see, emotional discomfort is no different - it will continue down it's path (anger, depression, hopelessness) until you do something about the cause of those emotions.
Be blessed, be well!
*photo by Jonathan Pendleton
Christine Mauriello's core strengths include motivational speaking, teaching, relational skills’ training, coaching, and compassionate care to meet the recovery goals for those with PTSD, addiction, trauma, divorce, and other setbacks.