I have to be real and authentic - otherwise what benefit would you have in listening. I had a rough morning this morning with discouraging thoughts. I had to combat them with, not positive catchy lingo and jargon but with facts, tools, and encouragement. Did I want to? No... my instinctual response was to comfort myself, not with truth but with food and avoidance. It was uncomfortable. I fought it hard because the struggle was real. I began by writing out exactly what I wanted to do (format for me was like talking to God) - and the struggle I was having was a desire to avoid Him. Can you relate? Do you avoid the very people who encourage you to mend/heal because somewhere deep down there is a comfort in feeling crumby? Maybe a lie-based belief that you deserve it because you are crumby?
There are some days when I have a hard time getting going because I missed some sleep, or had a rough sleep. There are some days that are difficult because the sky is pouring and is clothed in gray! And then there are some days that are rough because a belief (which is lie-based and yoked in my thought processes) surface and that lie-based belief makes you feel yucky. What do I mean by lie-based belief? Have you ever questioned yourself about the dozens of opinions you have of yourself - how many are true and how many are lies? Do you hold an negative opinion of your self-worth? Value? Purpose? Where did they come from, and are they true? Beliefs result in either value (+) or devalue (-), and regardless of where we are in our journey we absolutely have (+) value, and everything we experience can have (+) value and (+) purpose if we allow it to transform us for good. If we choose to reject old lie-based ideas, test all our theories, and question the validity of just about everything we have put our thoughts, energy, and belief in - the fruit of that labor is priceless.
Tony Robbins said, "It is not the events of our lives that shapes us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean".
My truth: I once held lie-based beliefs that bad things happened to me because I had no value or worth - that I was cosmically rejected and valued as worthless. Have you ever felt that way? Question that, and don't allow those beliefs to dictate where your going in your life anymore. If you recognize your own lie-based beliefs, like the one I just shared, and are committing to rejecting them - make a declaration against them. "I denounce the lie that I am worthless and without value." You can choose what you put your belief in and boldly declare that too: "I have limitless potential and will be evaluated not on what I have done - and definitely not on what has been done against me, but the value of my legacy will be created from this point forward by how I live my life and the kind of fruit my life produces in those I have the honor of influencing and impacting from now until I die." The past is dead - long live the fruit!!
*photo by Ali Syaaban
Christine Mauriello's core strengths include motivational speaking, teaching, relational skills’ training, coaching, and compassionate care to meet the recovery goals for those with PTSD, addiction, trauma, divorce, and other setbacks.