What wrong with a Challenge?
I read an article this morning whose title read "Sense of Self - MS may challenge you to redefine who you are and what you want out of life" - THAT'S IT! I wish I had come up with that for PNES and/or PTSD, but I didn't so I will borrow it and give credit. :-)
PNES/NEAD/NES does challenge you to redefine who you are and what you want out of life... and in fact it did. So, what's the point? You must take action and ask yourself: How persistent are you in redefining your sense of self, your identity? Maybe, like me, you didn't know that was necessary or even how to. Once upon a time I thought it was a core strength to be all things for all people - a chameleon who adapts and changes to suit her environment. Maybe you, like myself once upon a time, couldn't sit still and kept busy to avoid that "being still" time... Here's the problem I found with those two elements of old me - I didn't know who I was, which meant I didn't know where I belonged. I didn't question the reasonably questionable people or activities I was asked to be involved with - I didn't know that I could, or how, or when even to say no. If you don't know who you are, you don't know where the boundaries lay. Here are some thoughts for you to question yourself and the elements of your life with? What are your kind of people - are they compassionate, caring, cool (tons of more adjective for you to use)? Do you recognize that in your crowd now? Do you even have a crowd? Do you want a group of identity makers around you?
It is said that we know who we are by who we associate with and I believe that to be true because it has very much been a truth in my journey. Redefining yourself post-PNES or PTSD is essential. For me, getting clarity on who I was (which I was not at all happy with once I got a good look) allowed me to explore who I wanted to be (and am becoming). If you want something you don't have you must go after it ferociously, get brave and dig to explore. :-)
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Christine Mauriello's core strengths include motivational speaking, teaching, relational skills’ training, coaching, and compassionate care to meet the recovery goals for those with PTSD, addiction, trauma, divorce, and other setbacks.